The subject of soul mates is an intriguing one for most of
We are curious to know how we can meet our soul mate,
if maybe we have already met our soul mate without even realizing
it, or why the relationship with a soul mate, especially
if it is of a romantic nature, can be difficult many times.
Mostly, When we think of soulmates, we refer to the romantic
level, believing our soul mate must be the person with who we
can make a better and richer life happen. While ultimately this
is true, there are almost always some stepping stones on our
way, lessons we have to learn, and exactly here our soul mate
Before going into detail regarding the soul mate as a life
partner, it is important to realize that we have soul mates
in all arrays of life. Soul mates are groups of souls that travel
together throughout many life times. These groups of souls incarnate
together again and again to help and support each other, and
ultimately to teach and learn from another.
You can have soul mates in all areas of your life: parents,
friends, teachers, business associates.Whenever you meet a member
of your soul group, you will notice the feeling that it seems
you have known this person for a long time even if you just
met. Your ambitions and general outlook on life will be the
same. Many times you will share the same projects and strive
for the same goals, however, there are challenges in these relationships
too. After all, you came here to learn new lessons.
Then, we meet a soul mate who has been a partner in a previous
lifetime. The moment the eyes of these people meet, it happens:
Weak knees, a strong heart beat, an inexplicable attraction.
Welcome to someone with whom you have shared at least one previous
lifetime in an intimate relationship. You both look different
in this lifetime, of course, but the eyes are the mirror to
the soul and when your eyes meet, you REMEMBER each other. Without
consciously remembering, your soul knows it all: the joy AND
It is all there instantaneously, at the very moment your eyes
meet. And there is also the desire to work it all out in this
lifetime and be happy together. If you enter into an intimate
relationship with a former intimate soul mate, it is very important
to do so with an open and loving heart. These relationships
can many times be very painful, because you already know each
other so well, and you know exactly which buttons to push to
get a certain reaction from your partner.
It is very important to see that whatever pain a soul mate
causes you, it is done out of love. It is done to open your
eyes to pain, and thereby finally overcome your pain and hurt
emotions, and understand that your partner is merely reflecting
back to you what is inside yourself. You have heard about the
law of cause and effect (Karma). If someone willingly hurts
you to teach you a lesson, they load Karma on themselves. Only
a soul that loves you and wants the best for you would do something
like that for you.
This should not be regarded as an excuse for somebody else
to treat us badly (still, on the grounds of the same law, the
way others respect or treat us is a reflection of our self-respect),
it simply means that only someone who is an intimate soul mate
of ours will agree to take upon themselves the task to hurt
us with the goal to ultimately purify us. No soul that does
not belong to our soul-group would want to "dirty their
hands" in this way.
In this regard, there is a certain hierarchy when it comes
to soul groups and the lessons the various members of a soul
group teach each other. We believe that all soul mate relationships
are karmic. We all meet again for the purpose of clearing old
debts and to learn from one another and grow.
But there are different types of soul mates, according to the
different types of lessons. For example, you may have intellectual
soul mates with whom you have debates on mental issues. The
intimate soul mate is the one that will be there for you to
clear the emotional issues.
Soul mates, and all the more intimate soul mates, feel a deep
love and respect for each other. Therefore, even if their relationship
is difficult at times, it is of such a nature that they support
and nurture each other in their ambitions, aspirations, and
achievements on all levels - mental, physical and emotional.
This does not mean that they agree 100% on everything, but simply
that they respect and accept each other completely the way they
Basically, they do not feel the need to change their partner,
and the emotional lessons emerging in such relationships are
for the sake of purification of emotions only, and never for
the sake of manipulation or control. Not necessarily do intimate
soul mates stay together in this lifetime.
Even if we do not consciously remember it, it happens many
times that we agreed beforehand to meet again in this life time
to work out certain issues that will then help us to lead a
more fulfilling relationship with someone else, maybe even someone
new who did not belong to our soul group prior to this lifetime,
someone new with whom we can share new lessons and teachings.
Or, it could be that after several relationships we are about
to meet another intimate soul mate, and all of a sudden we realize
that one (or more) of our previous soul mates has already prepared
us for this relationship, which is now much more harmonious
than it would have been had we met this person 20 years ago,
before learning our lessons with the help of our other soul
mates. Wouldn't we be grateful to these other soul mates?
Separations from intimate soul mates are usually extremely
painful emotionally at the beginning, but after the necessary
period of mourning is over, previously intimate soul mates in
most cases stay real friends, helping and nurturing each other
in true soul love.
Article by Anita Asman
Copyright Anita Asman, The Aumara Light & Healing Circle